First impressions count on a dating site


It's been a while since I've been on a dating site and I'm constantly surprised by the photos people post as their profile pics and either the poor English, terrible grammar or no info at all on their dating profile. Of course I understand that English is not everyone's first language, but then you should rather use your first language or for crying in a bucket, get help! First impressions count! They aren't everything, but we're all here trying to make an impression. Posting a photo where your face can hardly be seen or where you look like you ought to be on an America's Most Wanted list, is not helping in your marketing endeavour.
Sending a bland message with very little to say as your first contact doesn't help either... To me if someone cannot make an effort to impress me with their first message, it doesn't bode well for how much effort they'd put into the relationship. Let's be realistic here. As uncomfortable as this may be (and I totally agree that it is), this is a marketing exercise. We are all on here saying: "Pick me - pick me!!!!" Think about how much time you'd spend getting your CV absolutely perfect. If you're serious about meeting someone, be real and honest, but put some effort in.

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